Ep5: Traver Boehm
Today I’m talking with Traver Boehm. I first met Traver on his fortieth birthday in the aftermath of having lost his marriage and business in a single day. Devastated by these events he embarked on a Year to Live, whereby he lived an entire year as if it was his last.
In this episode Traver discusses the realities of divorce, how he found meaning and put his life back together through service, what it means to return to dating and relationships and to be guided by the gut instinct – something Traver calls his ‘God of the Gut’ – and how he advises the divorced men he works with today.
We also learn about Traver’s Year to Live where he worked with the elderly dying in the public hospice system, spent a month in a pitch black meditation cell in Guatemala, and more.
He’s a very inspiring and heartfelt man and I think you’ll enjoy this one.
Topics include:
– The single day in which Traver lost his marriage and business in the aftermath of a miscarriage
– Some of the bad advice Traver received
– How profound loss led to his Year To Live experiment
– The reality of divorce for men
– Traver’s hellish divorce experience
– Why divorce robs people of meaning and direction
– How men avoid feeling the pain of divorce and what it costs them
– Traver’s work with divorced men
– Straight talk about divorce
– The surprising ways in which divorce has radically changed the way –
– Traver dates and does relationship
– Traver’s ‘God of the Gut’ and being guided by gut instinct and bodily wisdom
– How Traver drowned out his painful feelings during his marriage with substances and overwork
– Traver’s daily practice that accesses his gut instinct
– Planning his Year To Live and the meaning of the experiment
– Asking ’What would I really do if this was the last year of my life?’
– Traver’s time volunteering in hospices in New Mexico
– Lessons learned from the dying
– The little things that afford a dying person dignity and comfort
– Why every person should volunteer to care for the elderly
– How to volunteer for hospice work in the USA
– Traver’s month meditation retreat in a pitch black cell in Guatemala
– Gambling with his sanity in the pitch blackness
– Where to find Traver’s blog and writings
Find out more about Traver here:
– http://www.traverboehm.com
– http://www.traverboehm.com/year-live-project-blindfolds-maserati/
Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James